I’ve apologized numerous times for accusing her of being unfaithful, but I still haven’t confessed that I underwent a vasectomy. As a result, she’s become extremely withdrawn and is now thinking about ending our marriage. She believes I cared more about blaming her than supporting her during the pregnancy.

Now I’m torn—should I come clean about the vasectomy, even though I never told her about it? I thought it would explain why I doubted her, but I’m afraid it might just make things worse at this point.

With a baby on the way, how do we begin to rebuild our relationship? I feel completely overwhelmed and could really use your advice on how to make things right.